A further sign of health is that we don’t become undone by fear and trembling, but we take it as a message that it’s time to stop struggling and look directly at what’s threatening us. Pena Chodron.
Using emotions, especially powerful emotions like fear, shame, anger, as road signs, can help us look inside and understand ourselves better. Think about road signs, which one is the bad one?
Road signs just tell you something, like slow down, cross walk, no right on red, photo enforced light ahead, etc.
Emotions can be used in a similar way. When we feel a powerful emotion, it can be from our internal story about what we think is happening and how our sense of ourself is in danger on some level. Sometimes we are in danger, but often, it’s our perception of ourselves, or our concerns about how others are seeing us, or our ego wanting to be right, or our internal dialog, that is the real danger.
So, what are your emotions trying to tell you?
Being able to look at what is underneath why we are feeling what we are feeling and getting really curious about the emotion and ourselves is a way into deeper understanding. This curiosity can lead to awareness around the story we are creating and will help us think of ways to jack/transform the story into something that makes us stronger.